A lot of us starts off by blaming the other party that was involved, right? If they did something wrong, or they have wronged us in any way that mattered to us a lot, we normally wanted them to apologize to us, right? Because we want them to acknowledge that what they did was wrong.
According from Holly Brown's Notes, blaming someone can backfire on ourselves:
The problem with blaming others is that it can often leave you powerless. For example, you confront the person (your boss, your spouse, your parent, your child), and they say, “No, I didn’t,” or worse, “So what if I did?”, then you’re left with all this anger and hurt and no resolution. All your feelings are legitimate. It’s important to feel them fully, andHere are the steps on How you, yourself can Let Go of your Past Relationship, and finally Move On! Nursing your grievances indefinitely is a bad habit, because (as the title goes) it hurts you more than it hurts them.
Step #1: Let it Go
Sure, the hurt doesn't disappear on its own, you need to make the choice of letting it go, just like in that Disney song from Frozen. which says that you have to let it go and turn your back on those people who've hurt you. So that you can make an effort to stand up and move on from the things that are pinning you down to your solitude.
Step #2: Expressing the Pain
Step #3: Being a Victim and Blaming Others
Step #4: Focus on the Present and Enjoy
Let go of the past and stop reminiscing everything about it. Make today the best day of your life and enjoy everything that's happening right now. Bring yourself to those people who really cares deeply for you, like your family because they might of have been really worried for you. Same with your friends, go and meet them for a chat or even a slumber party and tell them that your going to move on with your life.
Step #5: Forgive them and Yourself